The Theology of Divine Reciprocation

Perhaps you have wondered, at some point, of the amount to which God reciprocates based on our human action. For example, if you cuss somebody out on the freeway would God step in and cause you to get in an accident later? Probably not a great example, but you see where I'm going at least?


There is a story in the gospels where Jesus returns to his hometown in Nazareth. I'm going to suggest that it gives us significant insight to what I'm calling the "theology of divine reciprocation."


Mark’s account of Jesus’ return to Nazareth in Mark 6 can be understood in two primary sections. Mark describes the rejection of Jesus first, then Jesus’ response to their lack of faith. My goal will be to identify the way the 1. positioning and 2. historical context of these two corresponding sections illuminates the divine characteristic of reciprocation.


Study of the form and structure of Mark 5 and 6 reveals a noticeable sequence. There is a display of astonishing faith (Mark 5),  absolute rejection in Nazareth (Mark 6:1-6a), followed by another display of faith by the disciples (Mark 6:6b-13). There is human action followed by divine reciprocation on each of these occasions. Mark 5 describes the overlapping narratives of the woman with a twelve-year issue of blood and Jairus’ whose daughter is dying. Their faith was made manifest in the fact that they had no other options. It was a risky endeavor to seek healing from Jesus. For the woman, there was the possibility of spreading her contagious illness. For Jairus, a ruler in the synagogue, it required claiming Jesus as his only hope. The bleeding woman had said, “if I but touch his clothes I will be made well (5:28).” A closer look at the original language suggests ongoing repetition in her pursuit. It may be translated “the woman had been saying to herself (repetitiously).” Her faith had been developing for some time. Mark 5:23 says, “when he (Jairus) saw him (Jesus), fell at his feet and begged him repeatedly.” Both narratives exemplify repetitious human action first, followed by divine reciprocation. Jesus responded to the woman saying, “your faith has made you well (Mark 34).” And because of Jairus’ continued faith, even when his daughter died, Jesus raised her from the dead.


The disciples had displayed faith in Jesus continually. They left their livelihoods to follow him and never looked back (Mark1:16-20). The passage directly following Jesus’ return to Nazareth indicates Jesus sent the disciples out two by two ordering them to take only a staff (Mark 6:7-13). Their ministry was incredibly profitable and when they finished their work, they were rewarded with rest and leisure (Mark 6:30-31).This is another example of human action first, followed by divine reciprocation.

Jesus’ return to Nazareth is inserted right between these two displays of faith. Every statement from the Jews demonstrates a lack faith. Mark says, “και εσκανδαλιζοντο εν αυτω” which I translate, “and they took offense at Him.” The Greek word for “took offense” is “skan-dal-id'-zo,” where we get the english word, “scandalized.”  Not only were the people in disbelief, but they were actually scandalized by Jesus!  The idea conveyed in this context is that of being offended and repelled to the point of abandoning belief in Jesus. Because this word is used by Mark right before Jesus’ response, the continued reading of Jesus’ response in Mark 6:1-6a is informed by and in reaction to the offense taken by the people. It is because of their rejection that Jesus rebuked them, did no “mighty deed of power there” (6:5), and went on his way in the following passage rather than staying in Nazareth among his own people (6:7-13). This exemplifies of the positioning of Jesus’ rejection and response in Nazareth illuminating the divine characteristic of reciprocation.


Not only is Jesus’ nature of divine reciprocation evident in the “positioning” of Jesus’ rejection and response in Nazareth, it is also evident in the historical context. Aspects of historical significance for this study are the setting in the synagogue and the statements made by the Jews.



Mark 6:1-6 takes place on the sabbath in Jesus’ hometown of Nazareth. It is the first time Mark mentions Jesus returning to Nazareth since he began his ministry. Jesus taught in the synagogue based on the Jewish custom allowing visiting teachers to give the scriptural exposition there. Those who heard and commented knew him personally. Most had only experienced Jesus as a carpenter’s son. It was the first time they would have heard Jesus reveal such wisdom and knowledge. Mark says, “many who heard him were astounded.” The word “astounded” is a response from those who knew Jesus well but had never experienced him in this way. Based on Mark’s narrative, all took offense to Jesus (6:3c).  This astonishment is an echo of that which Jesus first aroused in Capernaum (Mark 1:22). In Capernaum, he was a stranger. In Nazareth he was well known and understood in a different role. It also calls to remembrance Jesus’ teaching in the synagogue as a child in Luke 2. All occasions use a variation of the word ἐξεπλήσσοντο (ezeplenssonto), meaning “stricken with astonishment” to describe the reaction to Jesus’ wisdom and knowledge.





The Jews recall Jesus as a carpenter, who lived and worked among them for approximately thirty years. Mark says Jesus himself was a carpenter. Matthew describes Jesus as the carpenter’s son (Matt. 13:55). Jesus did not begin his ministry until young adulthood. He must have supported himself as a carpenter prior to his ministry. The question, “isn’t this the carpenter?” points not to a simple recalling of his past profession but is a hostile response to Jesus' teaching and miracles. A Jew would have taken up a profession in their youth, what business did Jesus have taking on the identity of a rabbi at this point in his life? They suggest Jesus to be just a common ordinary worker who makes his living with his hands like the rest of them.



The first question avoids the mention of Jesus as the son of Joseph. It was not customary among Jews to describe a man as the son of his mother. Jesus is referred to as Joseph’s son in Matthew 13:55, Luke 4:22, and by some of the later copyists. The mention of Jesus as Mary's son references the rumor of Jesus' illegitimate conception. Many consider it a slur regarding his birth. Matthew’s telling also phrases this question offensively saying, “isn’t his mother’s name Mary?” Every question asked of Jesus is offensive in some way. It isn’t surprising that Mark says, “they took offense at him” immediately following the questions they asked. Matthew’s account, and all variant readings of Mark’s account demonstrate disdain for Jesus. (Variants of the original manuscripts)





Jesus’ response to their rejection is where Jesus’ divine characteristic of reciprocity is found in this historical context. Jesus was amazed at their disbelief (6:6a). This is, in part, because of the nature of their questions. They must be willing to disregard their preconceived misunderstanding of Jesus in order for Jesus to do a mighty work. Mark’s version implies that Jesus' power to heal was conditioned by the faith of those who desired to be healed saying Jesus could, “do no deeds of power there.” The point is not that Jesus loses his power when faith is not present. It is that the unbelief of Jesus’ has a restraining, diminishing, effect on his work. Jesus did not choose to stay, try to persuade them, or perform acts to win them over. Their hardness of heart and rejection completely ended his work there. His departure had to do with the lack of faith they were willing to place in him. These things prove that Jesus’ nature of divine reciprocation is evident in the historical context of this passage in addition to its positioning.

Acts 10:34-48

Acts 10:34-48 is a significant passage for many reasons. Perhaps the most important aspect of this passage is the extension of the Holy Spirit to the Gentiles who had previously been considered “unclean” (Acts 10:28). It isn’t so much that God considered them unclean, but they were clearly thought of as unclean in the Jewish understanding at the beginning of Acts. The preceding text throughout Acts ten is of the utmost importance in understanding why this passage is so significant. The main characters of this story are Cornelius, a Roman centurion, and the apostle Peter. Some other characters who appear are Cornelius’s servant, angels, and the Gentiles to whom Peter is speaking. An angel came to Cornelius with a message telling him to send for Peter. Cornelius sent his servants. Meanwhile, Peter was given a message from an angel preparing him to go to Cornelius in Caesarea. He is very reluctant to this idea saying, “You yourselves know that it is unlawful for a Jew to associate with or to visit a Gentile.” Once Peter arrives in Caesarea, Cornelius tells him about his encounter with the angel and all the things that took place since then.

It is interesting to note the Holy Spirit’s involvement throughout the narrative that begins with setting up this divine appointment between Peter and Cornelius for the sake of bringing the good news to the Gentiles. The Holy Spirit is not at work for the first time by all means. But the Holy Spirit is preparing to arrive in a new way. It is also very interesting to observe the part of the conversation Peter had with the angel in 10:15 saying, “What God has made clean, you must not call profane.” This motif sets up the interaction between Peter and the gentiles in Caesarea that would take place in 10:34-48. Peter is obviously reluctant to the idea of taking part in anything profane. God had to speak to him three times before he accepted the reality of the way God’s kingdom was being made manifest.

There are many key words and motifs in this passage that carry over from the early portion of Acts 10. Two of the most crucial words in this context are “partiality” (10:34) and  “Holy Spirit.” The word, “partiality” is significant for many reasons. Peter begins his discourse to the gentiles by saying, “I truly understand that God show no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.” The words “Holy Spirit” are also crucial because there is a focus on this part of the Trinity throughout this chapter. The Holy Spirit is spoken of as the one what “anointed Jesus of Nazareth” in 10:38 and interrupts Peter’s discourse in 10:44; “while Peter was still speaking, the Holy Spirit fell upon all who heard the word.”

In addition to significant motifs and words, there are also very significant phrases in terms of use in the Old Testament and previously in the New Testament. In 10:39 Peter says, “they put him to death by hanging him on a tree.” This is the second time in the book of Acts that Peter has alluded to Jesus being hung on a “tree.” He would allude to it again in his epistle as well (I Peter 2:24). This would have been especially important to the Jews as the law of Deuteronomy spoke of the one who hung on the tree being cursed. (Deuteronomy 21)

This text definitely exhibits internal structure in its form and development. Its literary form is mostly narrative but there is a lot of dialogue as well. Narrative and dialogue go back and forth throughout. The previous section in Acts 10 could also be categorized in relation to particular dialogues between God and humans by way of angels. The ending could be categorized with Pentecostal literature as the Holy Spirit fell upon the Gentiles. The entire drama of the story has an upward effect rather than a climax that leads to a softer resolution. There is question as to whether Peter would go to the Gentiles and preach, he preaches, and then the most surprising element occurs when the Holy Spirit descends leaving a very triumphant climax at the end of the passage.

The only textual variant in this passage is the inclusion of the word “which” in 10:36; “You know the word which he sent to the sons.” Most translations include it. It seems as if it were a non-intentional inclusion or exclusion based on the way the Greek is written. It would be easy to miss. It doesn’t appear to be a significant enough variant to alter the meaning of the passage as a whole.

There are a few things about this text that speak to the socio-historical setting. This passage takes place in Caesarea, a city that is named after the “Caesar” denoting significant political currents that are present with regard to the Roman powers. It is significant that Peter is called to preach to Romans of all the gentile ethnicities the Holy Spirit could have chosen for this conversation. The other socio-historical notion is that of purity. The question of the profane and unclean is addressed head on. It seems as if Peter’s perspective in the previous passage is quite concrete with regard to impure things, Jewish partiality, food, or other things that could be considered impure by Jewish standards. By the time we reach 10:34 his understanding of these factors has changed significantly due to his encounter with the angel. Peter can’t help but include Jewish lingo throughout his short sermon to the gentiles speaking of thoroughly Jewish entities like Judea, Jerusalem, being hung on a tree, and prophets who testified about Jesus as the Christ.

Peter’s actual discourse is laden with Jewish themes. At one point he discusses the ones with whom God entrusted God’s message after the Holy Spirit came on the day of Pentecost. In 10:37 he begins addressing God’s message as it had been “spread throughout Judea, beginning in Galilee after the baptism that John announced.” He then continues by saying “we” are witnesses. One must attempt to identify the “we” of this statement. It seems as if he is referring to the Jews who were present there. He picks up the theme of Jewish priority again in 10:41 saying, “not to all the people but to us who were chosen by God as witnesses, and who ate and drank with him after he rose from the dead.” Peter is trying to be inclusive as he speaks to the gentiles but it certainly doesn’t come across that way. 10:44-48 could be understood as a response to Peter’s disservice to the Gentiles who were present. It could be that since Peter claims the Holy Spirit came only to the Jews the first time, the Holy Spirit decides to come a second time to the Gentiles.

The whole of this text seems to be about extending the water of baptism to the entire world. This doesn’t necessarily mean there had not been any Gentile converts in the previous chapters of Acts or any other gospels. It is also about showing the way Peter progressed in his understanding of who was “in” and who was “out.” This is certainly a notion that is prevalent at all junctures of Christian history, especially in modern Christianity. We must be aware of who Peter is, how he has acted as a leader in the Church up to this point, and the fact that he would only appear in one more chapter before the focus was turned to Paul’s missionary journeys. On many occasions Peter is the one boldly standing up, calling out in the crowds, proclaiming God’s word, and battling with the Jewish authorities. By the time we reach this passage he has experienced years with Jesus, the crucifixion and resurrection, and countless supernatural instances since the day of Pentecost. This sermon is predicated on Peter’s understanding of God’s kingdom. There is another account of his resistance when the angel said, “Get up, Peter; kill and eat.” He replied, “by no means, Lord; for I have never eaten anything that is profane or unclean.” It is painful and difficult for him to come to terms with such a powerful change, but his resistance is almost completely gone by 10:34 when he begins to speak to the gentiles. This passage is important for the contemporary Christian understanding of the nature of God. We see how God continued to interact with humans after Jesus had risen. The Spirit of God still on the move. There are rightfully concrete understandings of God’s view of outsiders that are being completely disrupted. In a few moments, Peter learns something about the nature of God that he didn’t gather from spending years with Jesus. It wasn’t just a nuance that needed to be reevaluated but an entire way of thinking. One introspectively determines if there is a certain group they are excluding based on their own, often rightfully concrete, understandings of the way God’s love is continually made manifest in our world.

Book Review - "Shadow of the Galilean"

“The Shadow of the Galilean” is a fictitious novel written by Gerd Theissen. It attempts to illustrate the story of Jesus from a historical perspective. The writer makes use of known historical facts paired with fictitious creativity to help the reader imagine what life would be like at the time of Jesus. By narrating the story it seems like Theissen hopes to develop the historical study of Jesus and the gospels in a reader-friendly way. The focus isn’t exactly on the story being told but the historical facts that are gathered through the main character’s interactions and experiences with people who actually existed and events that are recorded in the Gospels.

The main character is a fictitious man named Andreas who lived at the beginning of the first century in Palestine. He was a merchant who sold fruit and grain (4). Toward the beginning of the book Andreas gets caught up in a demonstration against the oppressive Roman government, which results in his imprisonment. The first scene describes a dialogue between himself and a Roman officer where he is blackmailed and given an ultimatum. He would either continue to be persecuted and imprisoned or he could act as a spy for the Romans, who desire information regarding Jewish factions who could threaten them. He grudgingly chooses to help them and is given his first task of investigating a surreptitious group of Jews who live near the Dead Sea called the “Essenes”.

Andreas and his two servants, Timon and Malcus, learn much through an encounter with a man named Baruch, who had once been a part of the Essene community. Andreas reports some of his findings to his Roman supervisor, Metilius saying they are religiously disciplined people, set apart from other Jews in the use of their own solar calendar, and a few other details. He purposefully leaves out the fact that the Essenes strongly dislike the Romans except to say they do not agree with Herod Antipas’ polygamous relationships (43).

John the Baptist is killed along with other suspected fanatics. Now that Andreas has successfully reported to the Romans regarding the Essenes he is given his second task of focusing on Jesus of Nazareth as another potential danger to the Roman regime. He starts by going straight to Nazareth where he meets a couple named Tholomaeus and Susanna whose son had left to follow Jesus. They give Andreas a distorted view of Jesus as one who tore apart their family and took their son away (65-71).

Zealots kidnap Andreas (and his slaves) allowing him to learn more about the Roman resistance communities. They then go to Capernaum where Andreas has a conversation with Matthias whose daughter was sick. This interaction reveals Jesus’ ability to heal and willingness to do it on the Sabbath. As he continues his journey Andreas finds out that Jesus is providing hope for many people in a conversation with the tax collector who replaced Matthew. Andreas continues to Tiberias where he converses with a Sadducee named Chuza and his wife Joanna, who was a follower of Jesus.

Andreas writes a statement to Metilius about all he has learned about Jesus. In his report he is careful not to depict Jesus in a negative way. Andreas is trying to keep the Romans from arresting Jesus, which is a foreshadowing of his latter devotion to Jesus. Andreas’ friend, Barabbus is captured so Andreas proposes a way that Barabbus might be set free. By doing this Jesus is unintentionally the one who is crucified instead of Barabbus. Once the crucifixion takes place Andreas discusses the events with Metilius and they both decide to follow Jesus.

The goal of this story is to help the reader picture the Gospel narrative through the lens of a character who lived at the time of Jesus, was in dialogue about him, and was shaped by hopes for a new life that were created by his own past. The historical setting is obviously in the forefront, which in many ways contributes to one’s reading of the Gospels. This type of narrative gives insight to various religious sects like the Esseenes and Saducees noting the nuances of their relationship with empirical Rome and key religious themes like Sabbath, conversion, and healing. This story also speaks to the way particular people-groups may have viewed Jesus. This is seen in the conversation with Levi’s parents and the dialogue with those who pose a threat to Rome. It can be difficult to place yourself in the historical frame of mind especially in trying to understand why the Jews and Romans would have allowed Jesus to be tortured to death. This study in the historical setting helps shape my reading of the gospel most in identifying with key characters that really existed.

While there are many noble aspirations within this novel there are many ways it can be critiqued. First, it must be said that as a Bible scholar it is easy to be overly critical of this type of writing. We aren’t used to it. If it isn’t read with the author’s intention one can tear it apart and completely miss its validity. Thus, I will attempt to discuss some of the disadvantageous notions.

The correspondence with Dr. Kratzinger was distracting to me for many reasons. Theissen is opening himself up to criticism by virtue of analyzing his own intentions. The letters are very one-sided painting Dr. Kratzinger in a negative light and discouraging an academic approach to the Gospel narrative in many ways. Theissen often replies noting a specific historical fact that in some way is to justify a fictitious dialogue. Another problem with this type of narrative historical study is the tendency to oversimplify very complex, historical questions and issues that have been constantly interrogated through the centuries. It is important to study the historical setting of scripture knowing that there comes a time when one cannot make completely accurate assertions. This is one reason why many parts of Theissen’s narrative could be heavily scrutinized. Context is of the utmost importance in Biblical study but can’t override that which we know from scripture. For example, Theissen’s depicts the Essenes, Saduccees (Chuza), and followers of Jesus in a certain, relatively concrete way. Much can be gathered from historical data although each of these groups is rarely discussed at length in scripture. The Essenes don’t show up at all. Even though you can make assumptions based on fragments of historical data one must ask why scripture isn’t concerned with a lengthy explanation of all the relationships Jesus had with all people-groups. When approaching scripture that way one is more likely to ask difficult historical questions with a sense of fluidity rather than inserting exact notions that could easily distract from the writer’s true intention.

Philosophy of Language via Wittgenstein and Kallenburg

Ludwig Wittgenstein (pronounced Victenstein) was one of the most important contributors to the development of a post-modern understanding of language. Brad Kallenburg has been heavily influenced by Wittgenstein. Wittengenstein’s understanding of language, life, and community are evident throughout Kallenberg’s “Live to Tell.” Some of these instances may be characterized in terms of reasonable associations between propositions, “rule-governed” language, and the question of a fundamental nucleus in which the meaning of a word is positioned.

Wittgenstein’s work may be categorized in terms of his early and latter work. Earlier writings were concerned with the reasonable associations between propositions and reality. All philosophical inquiries could be deciphered by presenting an explanation of the underlying reasoning of the relationship, which is one instance where the understanding of language is inserted into his philosophical views. He believed humans were limited by language. He said, “Like everything metaphysical the harmony between thought and reality is to be found in the grammar of the language.” There was a disconnection between the realm of thought and expression through language. Wittgenstein’s early scholarship influences Kallenberg’s understanding of language as a limiting endeavor in need of decoding through a process of reasoning. This is especially observable within Kallenberg’s atriculation of conversion experience. Kallenberg said, “conversion is a process because it involves progress toward fluency in a whole new language.” (68) The convert undergoes a certain amount of logical interpretation when introduced to a new societal and communal language. Kallenberg indicates a notion of saving faith as expressed in suggestive or propositional terms limiting the convert to insider language. (75) Converts engage in learning to “think in a new language” implying objective observation of their own life events (81). The idea of language-learning is one of many issues that predicate Kallenberg’s view of progressive conversion as converts must dicipher the religious language code.  

 Wittgenstein also promulgated the notion of “rule-governed” characteristics of language and the “language game” without attempting to necessitate stringent systems of rules for each language-game but in terms of its conventional disposition. He questioned whether language rules were communally and overtly taught and enforced. This notion is evident in Kallenberg’s discussion of John 6 where Jesus says “whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in me, and I in him” noting the disciples’ perplexed response. By saying, “in me” Jesus symbolically implies public participation with Christ rather than literally eating Jesus’ flesh. (73) Jesus’ use of the phrase “in me” is bound and governed by communal, social rules enforcing Wittgenstein’s question of taught and enforced linguistic regulations.

For Wittgenstein there was no fundamental nucleus in which the meaning of a word is located nor was meaning to be regularly attributed to all uses of a particular word. He said, “We should, instead, travel with the word's uses through ‘a complicated network of similarities, overlapping and criss-crossing.’” Kallenberg similarly explains a story of conversion that lacked a definitive moment of “salvation” discouraging the use of “evangelical jargon.” He claims it is easily misunderstood and often “sub-bliblical in its modernism.” (68)

End of Year 2012

Last year I started a new tradition of posting a recap of the previous year. I also like to write down what I expect to happen in the next year. I think its a good way to reflect and set goals. I want to say thank you to all those who have been there for me this year. I have great friends, family, and "extended" family all over the place!



School / Ordination
-Passed the Bible Content Ordination exam in February

-Finished 9 graduate classes: Early Church History, Speech, Exegetical Ephesians, Foundations of Youth Ministry, Theology and Culture, Islam, Modern Church History, Presbyterian History, Pastoral Counseling

-Went to 3 seminars: "Understanding Teenagers", "Leadership Essentials" and "Youth Evangelism"

-Became an official candidate for ordination with the PCUSA with the presbytery of Tampa Bay on September 27th

-Applied for 18 scholarships and received a little over $8,000


Field Education in New Church Development
-To finish my Masters of Divinity degree I have to do 35 hours a week of Field Education for 3 quarters. Over the next year I will be an intern in an exciting New Church Development that is happening in the Conejo Valley, CA. My boss/friend Rob Douglas has been called to plant a missional church in partnership with the San Fernando Presbytery and the church I work at (Westminster Presbyterian).

-Here is a video Rob and I created to help explain the new church.


Job Accomplishments / Developments
-This isn’t a huge accomplishment but it is one I am proud of. After several years of work I was able to help get our churches website updated. Check it out here. (www.wpcwestlake.org)

-Right now I am the Associate Director of Student Ministries at WPC. I will transition from Associate Director to the Director of Student Ministries in June 2013 (the current director is planting the new church I mentioned above). I plan to be ordained and finished with grad school by May 2014. At that point I hope to move from Director to Associate Pastor.

-Over the last 3 years I have been in conversation about the possibility of establishing Young Life in the Conejo Valley. (an outreach ministry for youth and college students that I worked with in Florida.) After a lot of prayer, emails, meetings, etc. we finally had a “friend-raiser” on Nov. 28th at a house in Lake Sherwood during the Tiger Woods golf event. There were several church leaders from the Conejo Valley, potential committee members, and supporters. We ate breakfast and heard the vision for YL in the Conejo Valley from the Los Angeles Regional Director. A generous donor bought tickets to the Tiger Woods tournament for any who were interested. We are planning another meeting in January. Our goal is to develop a committee, raise funds, and eventually hire an Area Director.  Contact me if you are interested in learning more about Young Life in the Conejo Valley. 


Sermons
-Westminster Presbyterian Church on May 29th - “Take The Road To Emmaus” -video
-Westminster Presbyterian Church on July 8th  -"Can These Dry Bones Live?"
-First Presbyterian Church of Dunedin on September 39 - “Wandering From The Truth”- audio only

Trips:
-Park City Utah Ski Trip with Florida friends in March
-Backpacking to Sespe Hot Springs in July
-Mission Trip to West Virginia working with New Vision Renewable Energy.
See the promotional video I made for their mission trips here.
-Jake and Ashley Higgins’ Wedding in August followed by 2 weeks with family in NC
-Florida in September for meeting with Presbytery (to become candidate for ordination).
-NC with family for last 2 weeks of 2012

2013
It was interesting to read my end of year blog from 2011 (below). I wrote “I have a feeling this year won’t be as eventful as 2011 in terms of job/school changes.” I was right about school going as planned but my job and ministry has changed significantly. I am always amazed at how God works. I’m especially humbled by the fact that God is using me to do things even though I make a lot of mistakes! I have discovered that it isn’t a question of whether God’s plan is going to happen but whether I am going to be a part of that plan.

This year I hope to help reach my community with the message of Jesus and gather meaningful experiences - with the New Church Development I mentioned above, by moving forward with establishing a Young Life area, and in the way I live. I hope to take at least 9 more graduate classes and finish my field education. I would like to go on another backpacking trip, learn to snowboard, and ride my mountain bike a lot more. More than anything, I want to be a better son, brother, friend, and neighbor to all those I meet.

Switching from VEOH to Youtube

There was a time when YouTube would not allow you to post long videos over 10 minutes. For that reason I always posted my videos on VEOH. It would allow me to post 20 minute sermons.

Now YouTube is owned by Google so I am launching my brand new YouTube channel that includes all 5 sermons I've done.

Please watch them and feel free to comment, like, subscribe and share.


www.youtube.com/justjump321

Parenting

Recently there was a post going around facebook of a father whose daughter posted her frustrations about her parents online: Click here to watch it


I posted the link saying, "this is a terrible parent" and I was surprised to get the response, "No what this is is a parent that is fed up with how they are being treated and wanted to make sure that ppl knew he was not above punishing his daughter. I wish more parents today would step up and remember that punishing a child is not a bad thing."

I decided I would write a blog to discuss this matter in more depth. It is important to note that while I have a lot of experience and education in adolescent development I do not speak from the perspective of a father. Also, these statements to not reflect on my parents in any way.

This was my response:
"There is nothing wrong with correcting your kids if it is done in the right way. Modern research shows that mid-adolescents like this 15 year old girl lack what they need to be successful adults because of parents who discipline this way. In the past 30 years the skills needed for successful adulthood have risen exponentially and the ongoing adult support and guidance offered has decreased at the exact same rate. Kids are just getting better at adapting to the agenda of adults because they don’t have the nurture and care they need at home. The number one thing a teenager needs is a stable and safe family. Even men need to be tender, kind and gentle as well as encouraging, comforting and finding opportunities for positive reinforcement. Parents should model appropriate behavior. From a developmental standpoint, unloading your handgun into your daughter’s laptop, cursing at her and posting a video of it on facebook does nothing but harm. It destroys trust, continues modeling and reinforcing the exact behavior he is trying to change, and teaches her that he isn’t willing to enter a healthy conversation taking any kind of responsibility for his failure as a father. I believe that teenagers are gifted to the body of Christ and should be loved and celebrated and made to feel like they can count on their family system."


I want to take a moment to highlight some of my statements and take them a bit further. 


"It destroys trust, continues modeling and reinforcing the exact behavior he is trying to change, and teaches her that he isn’t willing to enter a healthy conversation taking any kind of responsibility for his failure as a father."  

This father reinforces negative behavior. He models exactly what he is trying to teach his daughter NOT to do.
1. Posting inappropriate things on facebook
2. Using foul language
3. Undermining the value of material things
4. Taking responsibility for your actions


These are self-explanatory. He doesn't want his daughter posting something about him but he posts something about her. He doesn't want her to use foul language but he uses foul language. He wants her to learn the value of the things he buys her but unloads his pistol into her laptop. He wants her to take responsibility for her actions but doesn't take responsibility for his own actions. 


"finding opportunities for positive reinforcement"
I worked as a counselor at the Los Angeles Youth Network for 2 years. It is a network of homeless shelters for homeless youth in the heart of Hollywood. Many of them didn't have parents and most of them had severe discipline problems. I noticed that correcting their negative behavior didn't work nearly as well as finding opportunities to reinforce positive behavior. We had a rule that guys couldn't sag their pants. A guy named Donald would sag constantly. I told him to pull them up over and over but it didn't work. Finally, I waited for the rare moment when he randomly yanked them up (otherwise they would be on the floor) and I said something like "Donald, good job keeping your pants up today. I noticed that you aren't sagging and you pulled your pants up without being asked. To thank you I will do your chore tonight." From then on he never sagged his pants again. 






"I believe that teenagers are gifted to the body of Christ and should be loved and celebrated and made to feel like they can count on their family system."


It is important to realize that adolescence is a unique life period between childhood and adult.  From a Biblical standpoint - in the gospels there was only childhood and adult with no in-between. In the Greek/Hebrew there are a lot of words for children and adults but none for teens. According to scripture teens are not adults but children. Adolescence corresponded with childhood but that is different now. Teens are to be thought of as individuals in a unique stage of life whose task is what researchers call “individuation". This is the process of becoming a unique person. In modern society you are not yet an adult until you "individuate". There might be grown ups who haven’t individuated.







I will highlight 3 questions teens might ask of their surroundings from my understanding as it pertains to being a part of the family system:

1. Identity (who am I?). This first came about in the 1950s. The community always held your identity in the context of your community. There was no separation between the world and other people. Until the 1950s the community walked with you in the process of becoming an adult.  I believe that as we get more fragmented we don’t have community to hold our identity. There is less community to reinforce who we really are. You can’t choose your identity because it will be external and will really be “performance.” I believe simply that every teen is longing to discover that they are loved. They need parents who walk with them in the process of becoming an adult.

2. Autonomy (“do I matter?”) - This is where responsible action happens. It is not about making good choices but about power and the source of the choices we make. So why would a 15 year old girl write a post about her parents on facebook? I suggest that part of the reason is she feels like she doesn't matter. She feels like the list of chores on the wall are impersonal. She is crying out for her father to connect with her and walk with her in the development process.

3. Belonging (“does anyone care?”) - Culture does everything to tell teens to produce individual conformity and only then are we a part of the family while inside they don't feel like they are the "whole package". They can’t bring anything to the table. Teens want to know that their parents care about them.


Some of the previous terms come from my perspective on research done by Chap Clark at Fuller Graduate Schools - He is an expert in theology and adolescent research.